We all get handed a heartbreak in life and when this happens, we are often faced with so many questions; should I forgive? If I forgive, what will come of it? Am I forgiving for me or for them and if I do, am I just letting them off the hook?
If you step into the possibility of forgiving…what would you loosen?
I too, am on the journey of forgiveness and the inner work never seems to be done. It is a walk we all take some time in our life. And we eventually realize that we are not immune from being hurt.
Why do we so often resist forgiving?
Because we are hurt; our emotions are triggered, and we get trapped by a one-way version of what happened to us. Not forgiving becomes a form of protection. While that carries a temporary value, we are not meant to stay there, and if we do, will consume us. This is not to lessen deep wrongs that have been done, but instead, to shine a light on what forgiveness can bring. And if you choose to forgive; walking through the veil of forgiveness can teach you something meaningful.
Something about the one who hurt you…
Something about your own truths, your needs, or expectations…
There is something more for you than the pain you experienced. Your hurt isn’t the only thing to hold on to. With each thought of forgiving, there is a space from which you can begin to break out. Forgiveness offers you a gateway, and as you walk through it, you will feel the freedom that forgiveness offers.
But before you can experience that freedom, you must be willing to do the heavy lifting that comes with the journey of forgiveness. Without that, you will continue to carry the wound of that moment within you as anger, resentment, detachment, or something else. It is an emotional load that you will carry, and carry alone, until you decide to release it.
Forgiveness is not just one moment. It cannot happen instantly, but rather, it is a journey, with many insights along the way. So, take your time and consider when you are willing to begin.
Remember, you can’t change the event, but you can give yourself more freedom. And as you do, you will build a new foundation and new eyes with which to see… that the hurt you are experiencing is not your final frontier.
The power for you is in ‘the willingness’.
The willingness to try…
The willingness to choose…
So, give yourself the gift of forgiveness and create your own path to freedom…