Navigating challenges can lead to loss, a loss of hope, a loss of motivation, or maybe a loss of creativity and innovation. Whatever it is, that loss can be deeply felt.
And when we feel loss, it often leads to an increase in grievance.
A grievance can be a one off, but it can also stack or be repetitive over time. Either way, once you feel a grievance, your attention focuses on the grievance itself, which only makes it bigger, fostering more anger, more immobility or more disappointment.
And then, you almost become the grievance itself.
Can you relate? I know I can.
There is way out…
First, you need to understand your relationship with grievance.
Grievances are really… unmet needs.
Can you let that sit with you for just a moment?
Grievances are unmet needs. So, the next time you feel a grievance, pause, and ask yourself, what is my unmet need? Listen for the answer.
It will take some time and effort to change your approach, but once you do, it will shift your whole perspective. Your demeanor will open up and free you in ways you could not imagine.
But gaining awareness of your needs isn’t always enough. It’s essential that you tend to them…in a way that feels right for you. Don’t miss this step, it’s crucial. It matters to understand your needs and focus your attention on them.
So, the next time you have a grievance, remember, it’s vital information. Change your approach and use your grievance as a cue; it’s telling you to pause…to look underneath and pay attention to your unmet needs.
As you do, you will feel your grievance lift…
Finding your way back to a more hopeful place within yourself.